Ambassador Spotlight: Dottie May
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Dottie is a queer, tattooed disabled burlesque performer with a kinky side! She is an activist in inclusivity empowerment and is a chronic pain warrior for life.
Where does your overall determination come from?
Definitely from my family. My mum especially. She is a strong, powerful, independent and a passionate woman. Her fight to get where she wants to be in life is so inspiring and I strive to be like her every day. My mum also has the same chronic illness as me and strives to be the best that she can be. She was the one that was my advocate for getting my diagnosis and fought with me the whole way. She helped me to “come out” (so to speak) to the world about my disability and to be proud of it! We are each other's number one fans!
What specifically influenced your decision to become an advocate against the criminalization of sex workers?
I am a sex worker myself and just like every other sex worker, I’ve experienced how we are treated and the inequalities we face each and every day. Sex workers are represented in a negative light in social media in todays society and this profession is treated as shameful. I will forever fight for the decriminalization of sex workers.
How do you spiritually prepare yourself for each day? Do you have a mantra or meditation you do if things ever become overwhelming?
In the morning, I do spend time with my doggies and they’re just the light of my life. I do struggle with self care sometimes and I can become overwhelmed quite a lot from having mental and physical illnesses, but I believe that taking time out for yourself is key. Having a bath, listening to your music, having a nap and just doing things that fill up your “happy bucket” when it’s running low, whatever that is to you!
How do you empower yourself?
I empower myself by looking and acting like the powerful Queen I am! Even in the times when I don’t feel that way, I know that those feelings won’t always stay and I will always be powerful and able to handle anything that comes my way , no matter what anyone says or thinks (including myself sometimes!). I was originally nervous to use mobility aids when I needed them, but I regained the power back by making my mobility aids personal and rhinestoning them myself!
How do you process and deal with any critics you may have?
When I do come across people that criticize my way of life or what I do or who I am, I remind myself and them that I don’t have to justify anything to anyone. We all have a right to live however we like and we shouldn’t be ashamed. If they are uninformed or simply unaware, we can have a conversation but if they’re just being a troll I just block them, don’t need that negativity in your life!
What is your relationship with social media?
I’m on and off with my relationship with social media. It can be a great platform to share my experiences and to create an inclusive, LGBTQ, kink friendly, disability friendly safe space and therefore meet others with the same outlook! It’s also very easy to get wrapped up in it and compare yourself to others, but as long as you focus on your own journey, then nothing else should matter.
Your Instagram page features you wearing an abundance of fun, bold prints. Do you consider your stylistic choices as a physical representation of your personality?
Each outfit or look of choice is definitely an expression of my true self. I’m quite diverse in my style and fashion choices, not quite sticking to one specific style and I love that. Why the heck not?! Just like my mobility aids are an extension of me and personality and style, my fashion expresses who I am!
Why does representation matter for you?
I’d like to think that if I can make one person feel better and less alone, then I’ve done right. I put myself out there and I’m unapologetically disabled, sexy and gay and fashionable as heck! If I can make anyone else feel comfortable to speak to me or others for advice, or to live their life powerfully and unapologetically then that’s amazing! We need to be proud of what and who we are and fuck the haters!
What do you love about Slick Chicks?
I love the fact that Slick Chicks is suitable for everyone! It’s inclusive, empowering and makes difficult tasks of getting dressed each day easy! Wearing Slick chicks underwear makes me feel strong and capable of anything!
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